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Dirty talk – it's the secret sauce of spicing things up in the bedroom. Yet, for many, the thought of uttering naughty phrases can be intimidating. Fear not! With a few tips and a sprinkle of confidence, you'll be commanding the conversation like a seasoned pro in no time.

1. It's Ok Not To Be Original 

It’s always handy to have an arsenal of phrases handy. I mean, when all the blood is rushing elsewhere, it is difficult to come up with sexy phrases on the spot. Jot down some phrases from eroticas, poems, lines from movies/shows or even books.

2. Lower Your Voice & Lean In

A sultry whisper can transform even the most mundane phrase into a tantalising tease. And since you’re whispering, you'll need to cozy up close to your partner. No one wants to miss out on dirty talk because they can't hear you!

And for an added dose of sexy, do it right next their ear and add a little heavy breathing.

3. Personalise It

Everyone has different triggers as to what gets them going. The key is finding out which type of dirty talk works best on them by experimenting and trying it out in different ways 

Eg. If you know they love it from behind, then tell them how much you want them to do that. Find out their trigger words, it's all about playing up their deepest desires.

DIRTY TALKING EXAMPLES

1. Hot & heavy single words or sounds:

• “please”, “harder”, “more”, “faster”, “deeper”, “yes”
• sounds like moans, sighs, or gasps
• some people also enjoy hearing their name being said during sex

2. Be intentional or give recognitions:

• “Don't cum until I say so”
• “You feel so good inside me”
• “I love it when you touch me there”
• “Just like that”
• “Your cock/pussy feels amazing”
• “Harder, baby. I want us to come together”

3. Build sexual tension:

• “I miss the way you taste”
• “I just keep thinking about you grabbing me and taking me”
• “I'm going to f*ck you so hard when I see you”
• “I want to feel how wet/hard you are”
• “My panties are soaked, get home quick”
• “I’ve been very bad and need to be punished”

Men are visual creatures, while women, well they get turned on more by how they feel and their imaginations rather than just a strip-show. What turns a man on is totally different from a women, and once you understand the power of the emotional vibe, you'll be scoring major points in the hotness department!

1. Eye Contact

Eye contact is hotttt. Lock eyes with her during a conversation, a shared laugh, or a more quiet moment, and let the connection deepen.

These small moments of intimacy are big turn-on for many women who like that direct connection.

2. Compliments

Start with genuine compliments that make her feel like a queen. Whether it's her dazzling grin, infectious laughter, or sharp wit, it will help to set the mood without being too forward.

 A well-timed compliment can unlock a woman's fiery passion and boost her desire, making her feel treasured and empowered. It shows that you see her worth and will leave her brimming with confidence!

3. Create Anticipation

The key is to spark excitement, curiosity and temptation. Things like teasing your partner throughout the day with flirty messages, telling her what you want to do to her when she gets back home, etc.

Letting her know that she’s on your mind makes her feel cherished and anticipate seeing you.

4. Gentle Touch

You know those movie moments when people trace their fingers gently on another’s skin? YAS. Deliberation can women weak in their knees.

Initiating touch can be tricky. Here are some tips to ensure it's done appropriately:

• Touch non-invasive areas like the hand, elbow, or arm.
• If you're unsure, it's wise to ask for consent. This shows your respect for her boundaries and ensures that you're both comfortable.

5. Find Her Erogenous Zones

So here’s the deal, it’s not all about her vulva and the clitoris. While they are common zones, finding her other hotspots can change things up and make things more exciting.

Other erogenous hotspots include: nape of neck, lower back, inner wrists, scalp. The important thing is to pay attention to the areas she responds most to.

 6. Confidence, Not Cockiness

Picture this: you're rocking that smooth confident vibe but with a touch of understated charm. It's almost like you're whispering to her, "I’ve got this," without even uttering a word.

Hot tip: A lower-pitch voice oozes with a sense of power and finesse.

7. Personal Grooming

A person who puts thought into their grooming often appears more in control of themselves. And no we’re not saying to douse yourself in cologne/perfume, it’s really more about tidying yourself up and looking presentable.

• Choose simple and clean styles
• Wear something muted and natural, like musk instead of an overpowering scent

8. Be Mindful Of Her Pleasure

Finding out what makes her orgasm not only makes her feel like a goddess but also turns sex from a chore into a thrilling experience.

Communication is key – have an open chat to understand her desires and preferences. By tailoring your approach, you're not just becoming a better lover; you're creating a unique pleasure journey for both of you.

Turning a girl on is an art that combines playfulness, attentiveness, and a dash of spontaneity. By keeping things light, respecting her pace, and embracing emotional connection, you're sure to create an environment where sparks fly naturally!

Need a deeper level of understanding for your relationship? Check out our pleasure empowerment workshop Better Sex Beyond The Bedroom, to help you increase intimacy and learn to prioritize your sexual relationship.

We often hear that men are visual creatures, what he sees can easily turn him on. Well they can get turned on by what they hear and feel as well! Turning a guy on is all about embracing the playful, fun-loving aspects of your connection. If you're ready to send shivers down his spine and ignite that spark, read on!

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