OK, let’s get right into this. Anal play is certainly not the easiest thing to find out about online. If you’re reading this, you’re probably curious about it and wondering what it might offer you and your sex life. Perhaps you’re here as someone who actively enjoys anal, but want new ideas to add to the mix. Regardless of your purpose, here we are together.
Reader, you’re in safe hands. Which is just one of the things we want to know when we engage in anal sex in the first place, right?
The thing with anal sex is that there are a plethora of confusing sound bites and sex guides online which are wildly varying from one another and therefore hugely confusing to try and learn from. We hope this article clears the confusion and gets you to a place of clarity, so that you can enjoy some fantastic anal sex experiences.
1. Lube up! 💦
Unlike the vagina, the anus is not self-lubricating, which makes butt play without lube uncomfortable. Without lube, your skin may also tear, as the skin on the inner walls of the anus is thinner than the vagina. If you’re gonna give anal sex a go, it’s crucial to apply lube generously to ease the process and make things smoother for you and your partner.
2. Use a condom 🍆
You should still use a condom as it is still entirely possible to transmit STIs through anal sex. After all, there’s still skin contact and exchange of bodily fluids. In the event that there is any damage to the skin, infections may also occur. Thus, it’s much better to err on the side of caution. There’s nothing sexier than safe sex!
3. Communication is key 🔑
If it’s your first time dabbling with anal sex, communication is especially important. Talk things out with your partner and establish a safe word that you can use if things get too intense for your liking. Look out for any signs that your partner may be in distress and make sure to stop when they pull out the safe word. This way, everyone can have fun exploring while remaining comfortable and safe!
4. Try using some toys 😉
Our classic bedroom tip stands. Using toys not only keeps things exciting and fresh; in the case of anal sex, it helps your body get used to the new sensations and figure out if anal sex is something you’ll like! You can always start small with a butt plug or anal beads before gradually working your way up to bigger toys.
One of the fantastic things about sex is that the modern age of innovative design that has provided us with game changing aides that can enhance your experiences. Here are just some of the aides you can start off with!
Open the back-door to a world full of pleasure...
In moments of sexual pleasure and connection with a partner, it’s a bummer (no pun intended) to be interrupted to a dry halt. Be sure to have some trusty lube by your side at all times as your anus does not self-lubricate and has thinner and sensitive tissues. Be generous with lubricant, – it will make all the difference!
We highly recommend using a water based lube such as the Liquid Silk because it’s safe to use with silicone toys and condoms. Pair it well with an applicator too so that you don’t waste any drop of lube! Be creative by incorporating it into foreplay too and use it to lubricate in deep before getting ready for some fun action.
You may already be familiar with the joys of vibration but this particular aide is something a little different. Its flexible beads, bulbous design and body-safe soft silicone coating marry both pleasure and comfort. The best thing about this toy is the increasing size of each ball, making it easy for you to work your way into anal play to a greater climax. This is a sensual treat for any level of anal play experience!
For anyone with an eye for design, this gorgeous piece is one to be admired. This exhilarating gender-neutral toy was made to stroke you to satisfaction – literally, with its unique and gentle “fingering” motion that also boasts a powerful motor with 9 vibrating settings and 3 wave speeds. It also comes in handy for finding and massaging the prostate, the male equivalent of the G-spot, which leads to a really euphoric high.
Anal play is something to fully embrace as a fun and joyful aspect of sex. There is nothing strange or shameful about finding pleasure in other erogenous zones. It’s your body and your own sensual experience –ain’t nobody gonna tell you how to live your best life!
However you go about it, enjoy the ride and don’t be afraid to maximise the potential for your pleasure!After all, that’s why you opened this article right? Happy playtime, Hedonistas 😉