“Someone’s not getting enough sex.” A common joke made by people who have noticed that someone might be snappier or more irritable, or maybe just peeling the labels off their drink bottle. Jokes aside, is there any credence to the joke? 

But have you heard of skin hunger? Or skin starvation? What’s the different between the two? Do you need a hug? Or do you need some sexual healing? We aim to answer all these sexual wellness questions today. 

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First off what is the Orgasm Gap?
It's defined as "the disparity in orgasms between cisgender men and women".

Let's look at a study on respondents who "always or usually orgasm" during sex.

Source: Frederick, D.A., John, H.K.S., Garcia, J.R. et al. Differences in Orgasm Frequency Among Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Heterosexual Men and Women in a U.S. National Sample. Arch Sex Behav 47, 273–288 (2018). https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-017-0939-z

Almost 9 out of 10 (95%) straight men usually orgasm during partnered sex compared to roughly 6 out of 10 (65%) straight women.

Yikes! That's a 30% difference!

While almost 8 out of 10 (86%) homosexual women usually orgasm during sex!

Why Is This Happening?

1. THE UNKNOWN FEMALE ANATOMY

When it comes to identifying and describing the functions of the vulva, many are unclear on how the different parts work (including vulva owners!).

2. POOR MEDIA REPRESENTATION

Porn and mainstream media often show unrealistic scenes of women having mind-blowing orgasms from penetrative sex alone.

3. STUD VS SLUT NARRATIVE

The truth is women are judged more harshly for engaging in casual sex or even masturbation. This ‘slut-shaming’ makes it harder for women to speak up and own their pleasure, leading to them neglecting their needs and desires.

Did you know that 80% of women do not climax through penetration alone?

How Do We Close The Gap?

1. GET CLITERATE

It's almost a given, but educating yourself on the female anatomy can empower you to guide your partner around it, increasing your pleasure and their confidence. It also helps to research the different ways for a woman to orgasm, it ain’t just about putting the P in the V.

Hot tip: read articles, search for online courses, or attend workshops to enrich your knowledge!

2. EMBRACE YOUR SEXUALITY

It’s not always easy to express your sexuality especially if you’ve been taught that it's a ‘taboo’. Redefine what pleasure means to you, share your discoveries with your partner, and have open conversations surrounding sex and pleasure.

Female pleasure is a natural and healthy thing and we should normalize it.

Hot tip: communicate your needs and keep an open mind when listening or expressing your deepest desires with your partner.

3. ALL HANDS ON DECK

Take time to experiment, explore and understand your body, learn what you like, and have fun with it! The more you practice self-pleasure, the better you get at knowing what gets you off and it also helps to increase blood flow to your genitals resulting in easier orgasms!

Hot tip: try different positions, change up your routine, or even try using a sex toy!

We ain’t here to point fingers at any gender but to send the message that there are ways around this inequality in the bedroom and we most certainly can close the gap with education! 💪🏻

If you suspect that your bag was pulled to the side because of the toys then you can calmly let them know that you brought sex toys in a zippered bag. There is nothing wrong or illegal about masturbation and you are not the first person who has packed sex toys in your carry on.

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Hen's parties are a blend of love, friendship, and hedonism! If you're looking to create a unforgettable experience for the bride-to-be, why not add some sensuality and a touch of pleasure education that would come in handy for the newlyweds. Here are 10 juicy ideas for a fun-filled celebration!

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As we inch closer to 2024, we can’t help but want to take a peek at what the future holds for us. While we can’t predict what will happen next in life and love, what we can tell is what’s written in the stars for your sexy pleasure. Check out what Hedonist toy is perfect for your horoscope.

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Can we just say how frickin obsessed we are with our glass toys?! Other than being visually-pleasing, there’s so many benefits of using something so hard & smooth!

1. Temperature Play

Glass retains heat or cold really well due to their material. Did you know that temperature play heightens your sensations? Especially when you go cold, it puts your nerve endings on high alert, increasing stimulation and pleasure. While a warm dildo can help to relax your vaginal muscles! 

Be sure to test the temperature on your forearm first to make sure it's safe for insertion.

2. Can Be Used With All Lubes

No more destroying your precious vibrators with the wrong lube, glass toys are safe to use will ALL lubes! Be it water-based, oil-based or silicone-based, use whichever lube you already have on hand. Also, since glass is sinfully smooth and nonporous, very little lube is required to make them glide right in.

3. Sinfully Smooth & Hard

Glass glides. In and out. Easily. Which makes it a great alternative for people who experience pain or discomfort with penetrative sex or other toys. It's hardness means you can pinpoint and control the pressure making it excellent for the G-spot or P-spot which requires a firm touch for stimulation.

4. Body-safe

Glass dildos are typically made with high-quality borosilicate glass that is shatter-resistant, is non-porous and hypoallergenic making it one of the safest materials out there. It can be even be sterilised in a dishwasher for extra hygiene!

If silicone toys causes you irritation, we strongly suggest experimenting with glass!

5. An Art In Itself

They are clearly a work of art with their beautiful organic shapes and forms. Leave a discreet-looking one out on your shelf and none would be the wiser.

 

 

Mindful masturbation is essentially self-pleasure that focuses entirely on what makes you feel good instead of the end goal, ie. orgasms.  

It is all about giving yourself permission to be present in the moment, reconnecting with your body on a different level through creative exploration, and becoming more in tune with your sensations and pleasure.

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When was the last time you felt your way to a new sensation? In case you didn't know, solo play doesn’t just feel good, it is legit good for you! Take your time and savour the sensations, be in the experience of exploring your pleasure and just feel it out. Cliterally.

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When a food or drug helps with sexual activity, we refer to it as an aphrodisiac. Unfortunately, many libido-boosting products have no clinically relevant effect on sexual activity. In this article, we will cover 7 adaptogens that can improve your sexual life and discuss the scientific evidence that supports our claims.

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Looking at these bright pink kegel balls you may be wondering, “how can something so small make such a great impact to my health and sex wellness?”

This unassuming device may not seem much at first but what if I told you that it can strengthen your pelvic floor muscles and also increase its sensitivity and intensity for a better, more intense orgasm! Well, now  I’ve got your attention. 

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My enthralling experience attending Hedonist x Genvie's Pleasure Workshop earlier this year. "Jacqueline began by setting the tone, asserting that she wanted the workshop to be a safe space where everyone feels comfortable talking about sexuality and how it should be a judgement-free zone. Each participant’s table were littered with sex toys for us to touch and play with..."

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In the early development stages, most STIs don't have any symptoms, which is why many people are unaware that they're infected and continue to participate in sexual activities. It may not be a very sexy conversation to have but it’s much better to be honest with yourself and your sexual partner to have a good time.

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