My First Sex Toy: Ultimate Guide to Sex Toys for Beginners
Hey Hedonistas! Looking for the perfect sex toy guide to steer your pleasure compass? Well, we've got just the tools and essentials you need! Our comprehensive guide to sex toys is designed to help you confidently explore the world of adult toys and empower you on your maiden voyage as you look for your first sex toy. Because, let's face it, there's nothing more satisfying than knowing your enhanced intimate moments using an adult toy, whether solo or with a partner, will be a positive and well-informed decision on your own terms! So come a bit closer, here's your cheat sheet to pleasure-ville!
Before we dive in, let's start with a quick questionnaire: How do you like to be pleasured?
For everyone:
- Do you enjoy receiving oral pleasure?
- In terms of physical intimacy, do you lean towards internal or external stimulation? (Feel free to draw from past experiences for better decision-making)
For vulva-owners:
- Do you prefer additional clitoral stimulation during sex?
For penis-owners:
- Do you tend to get overstimulated easily?
With the answers in mind, we can now personalise the following options and discover your ideal companion, allowing you to truly own your pleasure!
To jump straight into what you’re looking for, navigate your journey here:
- Best Beginner Sex Toys for Vulva-Owners
- Best Beginner Sex Toys for Penis-Owners
- Best Beginner Sex Toys for Anal Pleasure
- Best Beginner Sex Toys for Couples
- Enhance Intimacy with More than Just Sex Toys
- What Type of Lubricant Should I Be Using?
Best Beginner Sex Toys for Vulva-Owners
For vulva-owners, the world of sex toys opens up a spectrum of unique sensations. From clitoral stimulation to internal pleasure, there are plenty of choices waiting for you to explore and hit those sweet spots! Let us help you cut through the clutter, and provide you the essential guide with the best first sex toys for:
Clitoral Toys
If you enjoy the delightful sensations of external stimulation on your vulva, including your labia, vaginal opening, and clitoris, clitoral toys are your golden ticket!
1. LANA DEL WAND MASSAGER
For something classic: Lana Del Wand Massager makes the ideal beginner-friendly vibrator as its wide head, bulbous head is designed to evenly spread sensations across your entire vulva, while zeroing in on the clitorial area for a tantalizing massage! What sets a classic wand massager apart from other vibrators is their easy-to-grip handle, ensuring user-friendly handling that makes it perfect as your first sex toy. This feature allows you to comfortably pleasure yourself in any position, providing excellent control in personalising your pressure sensations.
P.S. This sex toy also makes for a great body massager, you just don’t need to explain which tender parts it massages ;)
2. RAVEN BULLET VIBRATOR
For another targeted stimulator: Raven Bullet Vibrator is a fantastic choice as its tapered tip ensures precise, pin-point stimulation for your erogenous zones! However, that's not the only standout feature. Bullet vibrators, as the name suggests, are small, discreet, and come with straightforward controls, making it super easy to adjust modes and intensities. Its discreteness and compact size also make it a popular choice as a first sex toy and ideal as a travel companion, ready to meet your desires on the go! Oh, and don't let its petite stature fool you — these little wonders may be small, but they pack a powerful punch! Remember to start with lower settings and gradually increase intensities for a truly sensational experience.
A quick note of caution: while bullet toys are fantastic for massaging your hot spots, reserve them for external use only. Avoid internal use, especially in the anus, as retrieval may be tricky. Stick to the entrance of your vagina or anal opening during exploration. These areas are rich in nerve endings, perfect for foreplay and arousal!
3. VENUS LICKING VIBRATOR
For a distinctive experience: let's talk about the Venus Licking Vibrator – it's pretty self-explanatory. Anyone up for some good ol’ cunninglingus but served with a side of good vibrations? The Venus Licking Vibrator features a gentle and soft vibrating tongue that will take your vulva on a pulsating plethora of sensations! Here's a hot tip for first-time users: make sure to apply lubrication to both your vulva and the sex toy for that extra layer of wetness. This not only reduces friction but also lets you immerse yourself in the 'real feel' when you close your eyes and float into cloud nine!
4. KIRA WARMING CLIT SUCKER
For a sure-fire clit-focused toy: Kira, the warming clit sucker is our buzzing wonder, crafted to target the clitoral area using pulsating airwaves for pure satisfaction! This clit suction toy comes with a unique warming feature that is designed to enhance sensitivity and blood flow to the clitoris to increase arousal and get you to climax in a heartbeat! Additionally, clit sucking toys feature a specialized "nozzle" head designed to snugly wrap around your clitoris, allowing it to be tantalized by revolutionary air pressure technology that delivers gentle, pulsating sensations. Some liken the sensation to an oceanic wave of pleasure that sweeps over them from the stimulation. In any case, it's something to keep in mind and adds an extra layer of excitement for beginners exploring more options for external pleasure!
Psst, fun fact: did you know the clitoris has over 10,000 nerve endings, solely dedicated to providing pleasure? Imagine the next-level arousal! But don't just take our word for it – give it a try to truly experience the hype!
Vaginal Toys
If you enjoy the pleasure of internal stimulation through penetration, or if you're curious about experiencing a G-spot orgasm, dildos are the perfect way in (with the addition of lube, of course!). With both vibrating and non-vibrating options, here’s our basic sex toy guide to gently ease you into the experience at your own comfort level!
5. CARINA RIBBED G-SPOT DILDO & DAHLIA VIBRATING G-SPOT DILDO
(Carina Ribbed G-Spot Dildo)
(Dahlia G-Spot Dildo)
For a gentle introduction: Carina Ribbed G-Spot Dildo and the Dahlia G-Spot Dildo vibrators makes an excellent first indulgence. Both boast a sleek and slender design, differing slightly in girth to suit individual preferences. This makes them ideal for beginners, ensuring comfortable penetration without overwhelming sensations.
Featuring a simple button interface, you have complete control over vibration intensity and patterns, allowing you to customize your experience. What's more, their curved and ribbed heads are designed to target the elusive G-spot, located about 2-3 inches along the front wall of the vagina. Crafted with precision for maximum pleasure, these toys offer a delightful taste of G-spot stimulation. Pretty neat, right?
6. BUBBLES GLASS DILDO
For something non-vibrating: try the Bubbles Glass Dildo! Surprisingly, glass sex toys aren't just for the pros – they're excellent as a first sex toy too! Crafted from body-safe borosilicate glass, these glass dildos are durable, firm, shatter-resistant, non-porous, and hypoallergenic. With a smooth surface, especially when paired with some lubrication, they ensure the easiest gliding in and out experience for penetration! Plus, what makes the Bubbles Glass Dildo unique is its bulbous design – not only does it provide highly arousing stimulation, but the beaded design also helps massage the vaginal walls, promoting relaxation of surrounding muscles. Additionally, they warm up quickly upon insertion, offering the most satisfying organic sensations. Who knew glass could be so inviting, right?
Not convinced yet? Read more about the clear benefits of using a glass dildo for pleasure.
Dual-Stimulation Toys – Clitoral and Vaginal
If you're drawn to the delights of both internal and external stimulation at the same time, opting for a toy with dual-stimulating functions is the perfect choice for you! Dual-stimulating adult toys target both the clitoris with its additional ‘arm’ and the vagina with its typically shaped phallic shaft, ensuring dual satisfaction, aka rabbit vibrators. But not all dual stimulators are built the same way, so here are some beginner-friendly options tailored primarily for the enjoyment of vulva-owners.
7. BUNNY WEARABLE VIBRATOR
For something cute and unassuming: Bunny Wearable Vibrator is complete with a remote control to let you join the dual-stimulation party for twice the pleasure (hands-free!). Beyond its cuteness, this adult toy boasts a modest size, making it an excellent choice for beginners exploring penetrative experiences while still delivering a delightful massage to the clitoris. The ‘ears’ of the bunny snugly nestle between the folds of your labia, creating an exquisite sensation.
P.S., this clever little device isn't just a fantastic option for solo-play newcomers but also a playful addition for couples looking for their first sex toy to spice things up and add a touch of novelty to their intimacy adventures!
8. DOLCE VITA ROSE CLIT SUCKING THRUSTING VIBRATOR (3-IN-1)
For clit-sucker fans who crave the best of both worlds: Dolce Vita Rose Sucker Vibrator is your answer to fulfilling desires! This innovative stimulator boasts a unique double-headed design: one end features a rose-like design with clitoral suction using air-pulsating technology for clitoral bliss, while the other end is a modest-sized dildo thruster ready to ignite vaginal pleasure. With up to 10 vibrating patterns on both ends, easily adjustable to cater to diverse preferences, this versatile toy allows you to customise your experience, making it a popular first sex toy. Have it your way, whether you prefer external stimulation and internal bliss separately, or a combination of both sensations used together for a thrilling experience.
Plus, it’s not only beginner-friendly for solo-play but also a versatile adult toy that can serve as a double-ended massager for lesbian couples! Now, that's a (thorny) rose everyone can surely embrace!
9. GODIVA RABBIT THRUSTER VIBRATING DILDO
For the most ‘bang for your buck’: Godiva Thrusting Rabbit Dildo stands out as a popular choice, thanks to its customisable features and a unique thrusting capability! If you're after fuller and deeper stimulation, this adult toy boasts a long yet slim body and slender shaft to make penetration more comfortable (enhanced with proper lubrication), providing both vaginal and clitoral pleasure through its rabbit dildo design. Remember that an ideal beginner-friendly rabbit dildo should offer adjustable vibration settings and separate buttons for external (C-spot) and internal (vaginal) stimulation, allowing you to explore at your own pace without feeling overwhelmed. Besides its intuitive design, this adult toy also comes with an easy-to-grip handle for a user-friendly experience for first-time users.
What truly sets this sex toy apart is its thrusting feature, which can be operated separately from other functions, enabling you to fully immerse yourself in that full-body satisfaction! Experiment, get comfortable with different settings, then gradually increase the intensity and embrace dual stimulations for a mind-blowing experience.
Best Beginner Sex Toys for Penis-Owners
For penis-owners, the world of sex toys is not just about enhancement; it's a whole new realm of self-discovery and heightened pleasure. Beyond the basics, these sex toys can also redefine personal gratification and offer experiences that range from subtly arousing to something deeply exhilarating. We’ve sieved out the essentials for you to create this male sex toy guide with all the vital information you need to get you started on pleasure journey for:
Sensational Pleasure Enhancers
Whether you're intrigued by the one-time thrill of disposables or the lasting pleasure of reusables, each male sex toy in our collection is crafted for unique sensations, mimicking the intimate experiences of vaginal, anal, or oral pleasure. It's like the VIP experience for penis-owners, skillfully targeting the head, glans, and frenulum, whether you're elevating solo play, enhancing stamina, or adding a new dimension to partnered fun. Just remember to always include lubrication for heightened stimulation and to reduce friction especially during those long, hard strokes and for anal play!
10. TENGA ORIGINAL VACUUM CUPS
For non-vibrating masturbators: Tenga Original Vacuum Cup Series offers a diverse range of shapes, sizes, and stimulations. Coupled with its affordable pricing range, this disposable male sex toy is the classic first guide to the world of adult toys for men! Equipped with a special valve structure that is incredibly soft and squishy, it replicates the lifelike feel of skin-to-skin contact for an arousing experience. Its renowned hourglass shape provides a tight squeeze upon insertion, featuring unique inner grooves and patterns to enhance stimulations. Additionally, for an extra thrill, the Tenga Original Vacuum Cup provides incredible suction, especially when covering the air hole on the top of the toy, delivering an oral-like pleasure sensation right at your fingertips.
Keeping your first-time experiences in mind, these non-vibrating masturbators also come with a ‘Smooth Pad’ insertion mechanism that offers extra adherence, air-tightness, and minimises lubricant leakage for a delightful experience!
11. EROS MALE MASSAGER
For taking the regular handjobs up a notch: Eros Male Massager is a palm-sized handheld masturbator that transforms manual pleasure into an automatic sports car! This sex toy is soft, pliable, and super size-friendly, accommodating any girth and size (psst, we hear it makes a fantastic travel buddy too with credit to its unassuming shape and compact size!). With the flexibility to apply the right pressure during those long, satisfying strokes, paired with proper lubrication for enhanced sensations, it provides an approachable first step into a broader world of pleasure. Apart from its discreet look and customisable grip control, this bestseller male sex toy has an added bonus with its unique design making it really easy to wash and quick to dry! This male vibrating masturbator offers a gentle yet satisfying introduction before exploring more advanced enhancers.
12. MCSTEAMY WARMING VIBRATING MASTURBATOR
For that added touch of sensuality: Mcsteamy Warming Vibrating Masturbator is a cutting-edge sex toy designed for penis-owners, ready to revolutionise your me-time. With nine sensational vibrating modes, this bad boy offers user-friendly customisable features to cater to your every desire – from a gentle hum to a pulsating crescendo. Its key feature, the warmth, not only heightens sensitivity by improving blood flow to your shaft through its internal casing but also adds a layer of sensuality for a more natural sensation! And let's not forget about the importance of pressure in the whole experience! This sex toy also comes with a manual press cup feature boosted with vibration, should you wish to turn it on, adding just the right amount of pressure for that extra oomph in your pleasure pursuit. It's like having a personal masseuse for your most intimate moments. This premium male sex toy, with its wide range of functions, makes it the perfect first sex toy for those just starting out, especially when you’re still discovering what sensations you enjoy.
Toys for P-spot Stimulation
13. ZIGGY STOKER VIBRATOR WITH REMOTE CONTROL
For a gentle introduction to prostate play: Ziggy Stroker Vibrator goes beyond creating waves; it orchestrates a symphony of sensations, leaving your entire body pulsating with pleasure, thanks to its mind-blowing stroking and vibrating features! Its modest size and arrow tip (tapered head) facilitate easier penetration, making the experience less daunting when delving into anal play. Additionally, it also enhances the inviting nature of the toy's dual-stimulation features!
This sex toy provides targeted dual stimulation for both the perineum (externally) and prostate (located inside the anus) simultaneously, offering a satisfying P-spot massage for beginners! And when it comes to anal play, let's never forget the golden rules, always be sure your anal toy comes with a flared base and be extra generous with lubrication, as the anus, unlike the vagina, is not self-lubricating! By the way, here's a cool tidbit about this sex toy: you can feel the echoes of a satisfying climax as your body resonates with the lingering sensations from the unique targeted stroking experience. Pretty juicy, isn't it?
Best Beginner Sex Toys for Anal Pleasure
Discovering the pleasures of anal pleasure involves choosing toys that prioritise comfort, safety, and satisfaction. We've selected two modestly sized anal toys that are ideal for your first sex toy. To learn more about how to get started with anal play, check out our basic guide to anal play.
A crucial tip for a positive experience with anal play: While effective communication and relaxation is the way to go for the use of any adult toy, specifically, to ensure a positive anal play experience, do not skimp on lubricant! This is because the anus does not self-lubricate compared to the vagina. Opt for a slippery and moisturising choice, such as hybrid-based lubes like Liquid Silk or silicone-based lubricant like Sliquid Silicone Lubricant, to elevate your moments of intimacy with the utmost care and satisfaction. Also, be cautious not to pair silicone lube with silicone anal toys to avoid material degradation. For a fuss-free yet long-lasting experience, hybrid lubes are highly recommended and safe to use with silicone anal toys, providing easy wash-off for a hassle-free backdoor adventure.
And don't forget about precision – use a lube launcher for accurate application to ensure you don't waste a single drop of your lubricant. This ensures thorough moisturisation for a comfortable and enjoyable experience from the inside out!
14. THE PEACHY BUNCH ANAL TRAINER
For a gradual size progression: The Peachy Bunch Anal Trainer is your best bet to explore thrilling new depths for your first anal toy. This set includes three plugs of increasing sizes, crafted from soft and smooth silicone for a comfortable and enjoyable insertion. The flexible material, coupled with a tapered design, ensures a pleasant experience for beginners venturing into anal play. Anal trainers are thoughtfully designed to assist users in discovering and understanding their bodies, providing an educational pathway for those new to this form of pleasure. It's interesting to note that gentle vibrations can contribute to relaxing sphincter muscles, easing tension and enhancing overall enjoyment. So, whether you're embarking on this journey solo or with a partner, keep in mind that a relaxed state and proper lubrication is the key to a safe and unforgettable experience!
15. AKOYA VIBRATING ANAL BEADS
For enhanced anal stimulation: Akoya Vibrating Anal Beads provide a distinctive sensation, setting them apart from traditional anal dildos or anal plugs. These anal toys feature multiple beads that increase in size, offering the option to insert and remove them at different speeds for escalating pleasure. The feeling of each bead passing through the anal opening is highly stimulating, making them perfect for beginners looking to explore rhythmic and incremental stimulation. Many find the experience of gradually withdrawing the beads during the height of climax to be thrilling. The smooth, progressively larger beads being released can significantly intensify the orgasm, resulting in an exceptionally satisfying sensation.
Best Beginner Sex Toys for Couples
Couples looking to explore sex toys together will find options that can enhance foreplay and spice up their sex lives with added excitement and intimacy. These toys are designed to enhance pleasure for both partners, offering new ways to connect and explore each other's desires. Here’s our curated guide to sex toys for:
- Heterosexual Couples
- Lesbian Couples
- Gay Couples
For Heterosexual Couples
16. NETFLIX AND CHILL
For heterosexual couples: the Netflix and Chill Bundle is the perfect first sex toy pick for embarking on a journey of shared pleasure. This carefully curated set includes a variety of exciting toys and bedroom essentials, such as the versatile Lana Del Wand Massager, the natural sensation of Sliquid Organics Natural Lubricant, the delightful Feel Condoms Bliss (ribbed for extra pleasure), and, of course, our bestselling couple's toy, the Batman Vibrating Cock Ring. With these items in your ammunition, your shared experiences will be both memorable and blissful.
Now, let's dive a little further into the pleasure that the Batman vibrating cock ring can bring! This cool sidekick works by partially constricting blood flow, aiding penis-owners in maintaining a firmer and longer-lasting erection. This extended sensation can lead to a powerful climax, adding an extra boost to those enjoyable moments and enhancing the experience for everyone involved. The cherry on top comes when it is perfectly positioned for vulva-owners to savour the pleasures of clitorial stimulation from its vibrating features! For a detailed explanation of how to fully utilise this superstar, check out this video and get creative with your bedroom positions.
For Lesbian Couples
17. STRAP-ONS & HEDONIST JOYSTICK BENDABLE DILDO
For lesbian couples seeking a thrilling experience, our bendable Hedonist Joystick Bendable Dildo is the ultimate strap-on delight! Crafted with a soft and velvety, life-like texture, this dildo feels amazing on the skin. It features a heart-shaped suction cup base for hands-free exploration of different positions and comes in two sizes (small and medium). What makes it truly exceptional is its ability to be customised to follow the form of your body due to its flexible wire at its core. This ideal first sex toy for lesbians makes it an excellent maestro at hitting all your sweet spots as you switch up positions – all while staying comfortably inside you!
Here's the exciting part: this dildo is strap-on friendly, allowing you to choose your preference for pleasure, whether it's grinding or thrusting. If grinding is your preference, the Hedonist Joystick Dildo S, with its shorter shaft, is perfect for strapping onto your partner. For those who prefer thrusting, the longer Hedonist Joystick Dildo M offers deeply satisfying thrusting action. Check out this video to get creative with a strap-on.
For Gay Couples
18. LANDYS VIBRATING ANAL STROKER
For gay couples: If you enjoy internal P-spot stimulation or are curious to get into it, Landys Vibrating Anal Stroker is your best bet for introducing an exhilarating experience together. Its key feature lies in its 2-in-1 function, providing targeted attention to the P-spot both externally from the perineum and internally to the prostate from the anus with its vibrating and stroking function. That’s right! This anal sex toy makes all the right moves by providing gentle strokes with a fingering effect to deliver toe-curling shivers when left inside the body. As a bonus tip, for the most gratifying experience, consider adding some TLC to the wearer's shaft with a handjob or oral pleasure while the toy is still in place and be prepared for an out-of-body experience – you've been warned!
Enhance Intimacy with More than Just Sex Toys
Deepening intimacy and enhancing pleasure often go beyond just the physical aspects.Our engaging sex workshops conducted in Singapore, welcomes everyone and offers an enlightening experience for couples to learn together in a judgment-free space, providing valuable insights and educational, inclusive information about pleasure and techniques.
Immerse yourself in exciting ways to enhance intimacy, guided by the expertise of our seasoned sex educators and pleasure experts. Get shame-free advice and loaded tips on incorporating adult toys in the bedroom, all through hands-on practices with sex toys to spice things up! Our lively in-house workshops cover a holistic range of topics:
- For Vulva Owners: Demystifying Female Orgasms and Blowjob & Handjob 101
- For All Genders & Especially Couples: Better Sex Beyond the Bedroom and Intro to Kink
What Type of Lubricant Should I Be Using?
Water-based lubricants are compatible with most toys and are easy to clean. If you're using silicone toys, avoid silicone-based lubricants, which can degrade the material. For extended sessions, consider using hybrid lubes like Liquid Silk Lubricant. Their thicker consistency makes them an excellent, long-lasting companion for both vaginal and anal play, providing added moisture.
Important advice: When engaging in anal play with silicone adult toys, steer clear of silicone-based lubes and instead, opt for hybrid-based lubricants. This ensures a smoother and more comfortable play session without risking any damage to the material of your toys. Hybrid options also offer superior moisturising effects compared to water-based alternatives – a crucial factor, especially since the anus doesn't naturally lubricate. That said, if you're using different materials like glass or metal toys or engaging in skin-to-skin contact only, silicone lubes can be a fantastic choice for a longer-lasting play session.
Your First Sex Toy Awaits at Hedonist Tribe
Your journey to pleasure is just beyond the horizon! At Hedonist Tribe, we're committed to providing quality, inclusivity, and a shame-free experience. Whether you're venturing into solo exploration or with a partner, we welcome you to journey into self-discovery, pleasure, and satisfaction with our diverse range of products and educational sex workshops.
For a more personalised touch, connect with our pleasure consultants via WhatsApp. Explore options like scheduling a private appointment at our showroom at Tanjong Pagar, where you can chat with our friendly pleasure expert to discover which sex toys might be an ideal fit for you or your partner! Alternatively, you can explore a private one-on-one couple workshop to enhance intimacy beyond the bedroom, master the art of fellatio, or discover the sensual techniques of shibari. Our pleasure experts are here to guide you for a holistic transformation of your intimate moments! Or, if you're just looking to make lasting, fun memories with your BFFs and loved ones — whether for a birthday or bachelorette party, we're here to host your parties with glee!
Remember, everyone's pleasure journey is unique, and it’s all about what feels right for you, so cruise at your own pace. As always, your pleasure is our pleasure!
