Think sexting is just for the honeymoon phase? Think again.

Sexting isn’t just about sending explicit texts. Done right, it’s one of the simplest ways to build intimacy, spark excitement, and keep your relationship fun—whether you’re just starting to date or you’ve been together for years.

Of course, the way you sext in the first month often looks very different from how you sext after years together. But the goal is always the same: to make your partner feel wanted, connected, and desired.

This guide breaks down flirty sexting ideas by relationship stage, with tips you can use (or tweak to fit your style) no matter if you’re shy, bold, or somewhere in between.

Why Sexting Matters

Sexting is more than a flirtation—it’s digital intimacy. Studies show that couples who sext regularly often report higher levels of sexual satisfaction and stronger emotional bonds.

• It builds anticipation – like foreplay that happens hours (or days) before you meet.
  
  
• It keeps intimacy alive – especially in long-term or long-distance relationships where routine can set in.
  
  
• It strengthens trust – sending and receiving sexts requires vulnerability, which deepens connection when handled respectfully.

Whether it’s a playful tease during a workday or a full-on fantasy roleplay, sexting can help couples keep their passion fresh.

Quick Menu: Jump to Sexting by Stage

• Early Stage / New Crush
• Honeymoon Phase (3–12 Months)
• Long-Term & Married Relationships
• Long-Distance Relationships (LDR)
• Dos and Don’ts of Sexting

1. Early Stage / New Crush

At this stage, less is more. Sexting should feel flirty and suggestive rather than graphic—you’re testing comfort zones, reading each other’s energy, and sparking playful chemistry.

(You’ve just started talking, still figuring each other out, full of butterflies.)

Tips:

• Keep it light and cheeky.
• Use curiosity and teasing instead of explicit detail.
• If you’re sharing pics, playful lingerie or cheeky hints go further than full reveals.

Examples:

• “You’re dangerously good at distracting me.”
• “You have no idea how hard it is not to smile at my phone right now.”
• “You’ve been running through my mind all day. Should I be charging you rent?”
• “What would you do if I whispered in your ear right now?”
• “I feel like we’d get nothing done if we were actually in the same room right now.”

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2. Honeymoon Phase (3–12 Months)

Here’s where sexting becomes bolder—an extension of your physical chemistry. You know each other better now, which makes it easier to add heat and inside references.

(You’re comfortable, chemistry is strong, intimacy is frequent.)

Tips:

• Bring in shared experiences (“last night was…”).
• Mirror their tone—match boldness with boldness.
• Use photos or playful visuals (sparingly) to add spice.

Examples:

• “I can still taste you on my lips. It's impossible to focus on work today.”
• “The way you said my name last night… stuck in my head all day.”
• “Not sure what I want more—your hands or your mouth on me again.”
• “Snapped this for you. Don’t make me wait too long to take it off.”
• “Last night was trouble. And I want more of it tonight.”

3. Long-Term Relationship

When you’ve been together for years, sexting isn’t about novelty—it’s about rediscovery. Daily routines and responsibilities can dull the spark, but a well-timed sext reminds your partner they’re still your fantasy. 

(From years together to raising kids—keeping intimacy alive is about surprise, play, and remembering you still desire each other.)

Tips:

• Drop texts unexpectedly during work or errands.
• Reference shared memories and spin them into new sparks.
• Play with humour, roleplay, and fantasies you haven’t tried yet.
• Build tension during the day so nights feel electric.

Examples:

• “Remember when I used to tie you up? Just found the cuffs, wanna recreate tonight?”
• “The kids are finally asleep… and I’ve got a very different kind of bedtime story in mind😏”
• “I keep thinking about our first apartment and how we christened every room. Throwback round two?”
• “Still picturing you with that toy last night… I want a repeat performance.”
• “Let’s book a weekend away. No curfews, no kids—just us being loud and reckless again.”
• “I’ve got a French maid outfit waiting for you tonight… should I start cleaning, or get dirty first?” 
• “I’m already picturing you spread out, blindfolded, waiting for me. Tempted?”
  (For inspo, you’ll want to try these 8 Best Spreader Bar Sex Positions)

If you’re craving fresh ideas to keep things exciting, check out our guide on how to reignite passion in a long-term relationship.

4. Long-Distance Relationships (LDR)

In long-distance relationships, sexting isn’t optional—it’s the glue that keeps intimacy alive. Without physical closeness, words (and the right toys) become your connection. The key here is building anticipation, layering in creativity, and finding ways to make intimacy feel real—even across screens.

(Separated by cities or countries, your phone becomes the bedroom.)

Tips

• ​​Create countdowns until your next reunion.  
• Use audio notes or voice messages to add presence.
• Balance emotional intimacy with erotic play.
• Try app-enabled sex toys like Lovense, which let your partner control your pleasure from anywhere.

Examples:

• “Only five more sleeps until I can taste you again—I’m counting every one.”
• “Close your eyes. Imagine me whispering this against your neck right now.”
• “Tonight I’m slipping into bed in your shirt and pretending your arms are around me.”
• “Tell me exactly what you’d do if I showed up at your door right now… I want every detail.”
• “Open the app. I want to feel your touch even from miles away.”
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Dos and Don’ts of Sexting

Sexting can be exciting, but it also comes with boundaries, safety, and respect. Keeping these in mind ensures the experience stays fun, consensual, and drama-free.

✅ Dos

• Do get consent first: Not everyone is into sexting, so always check if your partner’s comfortable before sending anything explicit.
  
  
• Do build anticipation: Start flirty and suggestive before diving into graphic details—it keeps things playful.
  
  
• Do protect your privacy: Use secure apps or delete sensitive media if you’re worried about it being saved.
  
  
• Do personalise: Reference shared memories, inside jokes, or their specific turn-ons to make it feel intimate and authentic.
  
  
• Do mix it up: Combine texts with voice notes, emojis, or pictures (if both are comfortable) to keep things fresh.

❌ Don’ts

• Don’t pressure: If your partner isn’t responsive or says no, respect that. Sexting should never feel like an obligation.
  
  
• Don’t overshare too soon: Jumping into overly graphic descriptions too early can be off-putting. Ease in.
  
  
• Don’t screenshot without consent: Respect your partner’s trust by not saving or sharing private content without permission.
  
  
• Don’t forget context: Timing matters—maybe don’t send a NSFW sext when you know they’re in a family dinner or work meeting.
  
  
• Don’t fake it: Authenticity is more attractive than copying a line from the internet. Be yourself.

Want a deeper dive? Check out our guide on Sexting 101: 5 Tips on How to Send Nudes & Sexy Texts for more on keeping things sexy and safe.

Keeping the Spark Alive

The best sexts aren’t about being the dirtiest—they’re about connection. A single playful line can make your partner feel desired, thought of, and hungry for what’s next.

So instead of sending “wyd?” tonight, try these 69 dirty talking examples and keep the spark alive—whether you’re just starting out, long-distance, or years into love.