We know that sometimes it gets 𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘥 when you start to talk about kink but having a kink is nothing to be ashamed of! In fact a new study shows that about half of adults have desires and fantasies that are ‘unconventional’. 😈
1. Consent Is Sexy
As a rule of thumb, both you and your partner should always relay consent prior for a gratifying experience.
Consent allows you to be more confident in what you're doing during kink play. You may have said ‘yes’ once, but that doesn't apply to all your next play sessions. Get consent every time.
Hot Tip: Try dirty talking in the bedroom to suss out consent from your partner, eg. "You've been naughty, shall I spank you?"
2. Set Boundaries
Never make assumptions about each other’s needs or desires. Be transparent about your boundaries and always negotiate your limits.
Let’s be real, kink play ain’t hot unless everyone involved is enjoying it. If you’re not ok with being slapped on the face but would love it on the ass, don't be afraid to be honest about it.
Hot Tip: Making a list can be really helpful and it's also good practice to update it every few months as your preferences may evolve overtime.
3. Get Informed
Exploring kinks comes with risks, mitigate those risks with knowledge and preparation.
Get yourself clued-in on the different kinds of kinks and fetishes out there to help you and your partner feel less intimidated and more prepared for an exciting exploration into unconventional pleasures.
Hot Tip: Read more educational kink blogs from credible sex-positive educators or kink experts, or even enrol in some workshops to ease you into the world of kink.
4. Don't Yuck My Yum
Healthy curiosity is a part of healthy sexuality.
Approach kink with an open mind, everyone is different! What you like may not be what your partner is into and that's perfectly okay. Understanding that your desires don’t overrule your partner’s comfort could lead to more enthusiasm than resistance.
Hot Tip: Be open and honest about your desires while leaving room for compromise or discussion. And it's totally okay to not participate in kink activities that you're not fully comfortable with.
Remember you’re not alone so let your freak(y) flag fly!