What Is It?
Mindful masturbation is essentially self-pleasure that focuses entirely on what makes you feel good instead of the end goal, ie. orgasms.
It is all about giving yourself permission to be present in the moment, reconnecting with your body on a different level through creative exploration, and becoming more in tune with your sensations and pleasure.
What Are Its Benefits?
Research shows that women who practice mindfulness have better sex in general, with higher arousal and better orgasms.
Therefore, by adding mindfulness to your masturbation routine, it opens up new neural pathways to feel good and deepens your understanding of your pleasure.
- Helps you to unwind and destress
- Increases your sexual confidence
- Makes you a better lover
How Do I Start?
SET AN INTENTION
As you get ready for a solo sesh, ask yourself what do you want out of it. Perhaps you want to practice edging? Or find a new erogenous spot?
Try to remember this intention as you explore so you will stay connected to the journey and not the destination.
FOCUS ON BREATHING
Taking in deep breaths helps to stimulate blood flow, which in turn aids in arousal. It also relaxes you and anchors you in the present moment.
With each inhale and exhale, focus on the intention you've set. And if you find your thoughts drifting, return to your breath work and reconnect with each breath.
As tempting as it is to reach for the vibrator, resist and use your hands instead. It creates a level of intimacy and connection with your body that vibrators can't achieve sometimes.
Caress your erogenous zones, explore your body in its entirety and acknowledge what feels good for you. This deeper understanding of your own pleasure will also make partnered sex more fulfilling as you become a more confident lover and communicator in bed.