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In the world of sexual exploration, the realm of dominance is not limited to men. Women can be just as assertive, confident, and commanding in the bedroom. Embracing your inner domme can lead to exhilarating experiences of power and pleasure, both for you and your partner. So, if you're ready to take charge and explore your dominant side, here's a guide to help you unleash your sexual dominance in bed.

What Is Sexual Dominance?

It's all about taking the lead, setting the tempo, and controlling an experience that leaves you and your partner(s) breathless with excitement. Think of it as tapping into your inner domme and unleashing your wildest fantasies with confidence and flair. From playful teasing to commanding control, sexual dominance is about exploring your desires, embracing your power, and creating moments of intense pleasure that leave you feeling empowered and fulfilled.

Benefits Of Being Dominant

Being in control can:

• Be incredibly empowering
• Boost your self-confidence
• Ignite a sense of liberation that extends far beyond the bedroom
• Encourage open & honest conversations
• Act as a stress relief from your day-to-day life

What are the Responsibilities of a Dominant?

Being dominant isn't just about calling the shots—it's also about nurturing trust, creating a safe space for experimentation, and ensuring that everyone aboard feels valued and respected. Whether they're setting scenes or dishing out commands, the dominant's role is to elevate the experience and leave everyone aboard floating on a cloud of pleasure.

Tips To Be Sexually Dominant In Bed

1. Discuss Your Fantasy

Talking about desires ensures both partners understand each other's preferences and boundaries, fostering trust and intimacy for a more satisfying experience.

Hot Tip: Add some spice by turning it into a date night affair. Try asking each other intimate questions over dinner or break the ice with a fun conversation starter card game.

2. Wear Something Intimidating

It’s not just a visual treat that plays into your partner's fantasies; it also gives you the confidence boost to feel sexy and empowered!

Hot Tip: Consider role-play outfits, sexy lingerie, or daring latex attire. And for that extra touch of sass, throw on some red lipstick, high heels and a cheeky spank paddle to perfect your fiesty ensemble!

3. Be A Boss

Embracing dominance means taking charge with confidence. This not only exudes power but also instills trust and safety in your submissive partner, helping them fully embrace their role.

Hot Tip: Start with simple commands (eg. “on your knees now!”) or a little hair-pulling to help your partner feel your sense of authority. From your demeanour, posture, and tone to every command—aim for conviction and firmness.

4. Let Them Worship Your Body

This act reinforces your power and control, putting you in a position of authority where they focus on pleasing you and fulfilling your desires.

Hot Tip: Invite your partner to explore your body with their hands, enjoying slow, passionate caresses. Offer them the opportunity to kiss every inch of your body or give you a sensual massage.

5. Restrict Their Senses

With sensory deprivation, it enhances the power dynamics, elevating anticipation and even arousal! It also allows the submissive partner to concentrate solely on the dominant's instructions, intensifying their surrender.

Hot Tip: Adding bondage essentials like a blindfold or cuffs, you can indulge in teasing, stroking, and spanking your partner with full control over their pleasure.

6. Choose Positions Where You Have Control

Watching your partner surrender control can be incredibly arousing! It also empowers you to guide the encounter, dictating its pace, intensity, and amplifying overall enjoyment!

Empowering sex positions for a woman on top, asserting dominance in the bedroom, include:

1. Cowgirl: The woman straddles her partner, giving her control over the rhythm and depth of penetration.

2. Reverse Cowgirl: Similar to the cowgirl position, but facing away from her partner, allowing her to control the angle and intensity.

3. Lotus: The woman sits on her partner's lap with legs crossed while facing each other, giving her control over the pace and closeness.

4. Amazon: The woman kneels over her partner, who is lying down, allowing her to dictate the speed and depth of penetration.

5. Face Sitting: The woman sits on her partner's face, giving her control over the pleasure and intensity of oral stimulation.

These positions empower women to take charge and assert their dominance in the bedroom, leading to a more fulfilling sexual experience for both partners. 

7. Control Their Climax

This brings a mix of mental and physical control to the sexual dynamic, amping up the excitement and anticipation. Extending the buildup can really ramp up their climax, making for an intense toe-curling experience!

Hot Tip: Edge your partner close to the finish line then hit the breaks. Repeat this cycle multiple times and watch your partner beg for your touch to fulfill their insatiable desires.

What is the Difference Between Dominance and Aggression?

Dominance is all about taking the lead with confidence and respect, guiding the action with finesse and charm. It's about asserting your desires in a playful and consensual way, creating an atmosphere of excitement and anticipation.

On the other hand, aggression is like a bull in a china shop – it's forceful and disruptive. It disregards boundaries, lacks finesse, and can leave everyone feeling uncomfortable and unsafe from the lack of consent. 

BDSM safety and consent is the number one thing to look out for when delving into the world of kink and should always be at the back of your mind as you play out your roles. And if you're not sure where to even begin, here's our guide to BDSM play.

To sum it off, embracing your sexual dominance can be a liberating and empowering experience for women. By knowing your desires, communicating with confidence, and exploring power dynamics, you can unleash your inner domme and create unforgettable experiences of pleasure and intimacy in the bedroom. So, go ahead – take the reins and let your dominant side shine!

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