If you’ve been exploring your body and experimenting with sex for a while, you may have heard the term “blended orgasms” once or twice. And chances are that your follow up questions would normally be “What is it?” and “How do I experience one?” So, to answer this ever-elusive pleasure question, here is all you need to know about blended orgasms and some juicy tips on how to achieve them with one of our most recommended Hedonistic toys, the Sakura!

What Is A Blended Orgasm?

This happens when you experience a clitoral and vaginal orgasm at the same time. With two simultaneous orgasms happening all at once, you’ll experience a more intense and full body response that will make you question, “why didn't I experiment with blended orgasms sooner?!” 

Our body is made up of millions of sensitive nerve endings that are great for pleasure and arousal. A blended orgasm can involve the stimulation of multiple other areas like the nape of your neck, breast, nipples, inner thighs, lower back, vulva and other erogenous zones but typically, it commonly involves the climax from the clitoris and vagina at the same time. If you aren’t exactly sure what these mean, read on!

Clitoral orgasms

The clitoris is located right at the top of your vulva and is the only sexual organ in the female body created purely for pleasure. It is the external part of the female genital and the most sensitive part of your vulva. When aroused, blood rushes to the clitoris, which causes it to swell up and throb, leading into an orgasm. 

A clitoral orgasm can be best described as a rush of pleasure and for some, it can feel like a build up of tension, causing your back to arch. When the release comes, it feels like waves of pleasure enveloping your vulva!

According to research, 51%-60% of women orgasm when their clitoris is involved. Meaning orgasms usually are more likely to happen when the clit is also stimulated during penetration. Which isn’t a surprise considering the clitoris has over 8,000 nerve endings! 

Vaginal Orgasms 

The vagina is a muscular canal that is lined with nerves and mucus membranes. It has a soft flexible lining that provides natural lubrication and arousing sensations during penetration with a finger, penis or sex toy. The lower vagina holds your pelvic floor muscles, which is an integral part of experiencing an orgasm. Releasing and contracting your pelvic floor muscles can add to the experience of an orgasm, read more about pelvic floor muscles and its importance here! Arousal happens at the vaginal walls, they then start to pulse and the muscles will start to contract during arousal hence creating a vaginal orgasm. You may feel these orgasms take place deeper in your vagina.

That being said, there is no one hard and fast way to experience vaginal orgasms, they can happen in many different ways and feel different to everyone. And no, what you see in the movies isn’t always accurate. Not everyone orgasms purely from vaginal penetration, and that’s perfectly normal! So if you are looking for something to get you started, whether you want to explore more of your body or want something more specific, we got you covered! We have a range of toys to help you learn what feels good for you! Check them out here.

Now that you know how your clitoral and vaginal orgasms happen, let’s help you maximise your pleasure through blended orgasms! 

How Can I Have A Blended Orgasm?

Stimulating both the vagina and clitoris can prove to be tricky business, but fret not, your girl has got you covered! 

To give all of you better context on how to achieve your first, and definitely not last blended orgasm, I decided to give the Hedonist’s latest pleasure toy, the Sakura (4in1) Rabbit Dildo a “tried-and-tested” review so that you could get the secret sauce, without the fuss. 

As a 4 in 1 toy, the Sakura not only vibrates, it also comes with a C-spot stimulator that features a sucking and subtle licking function that pulses against your most sensitive bits, it even features a new innovation that provides a G-tapping function specifically designed for G-spot orgasms! It sounded too good to be true, but the truth will set you free and here is my account of “popping” my first blended orgasm with this magical tool!

My First Blended Orgasm 

I had never experienced a blended orgasm prior to using Sakura, and I had my doubts as to whether it would work for me. I normally orgasm from clitoral stimulation with the Kira Warming Clit Sucker, and never really climaxed with penetrative orgasms. 

When I first unboxed my Sakura, a sense of intrigue and curiosity filled my body and my mind. Like the good student I am only when it comes to sex toys, I whipped out the manual and was pleasantly surprised to find that this toy came with 10 different vibrating patterns for both the dildo and the clitoral massager. That definitely got my attention as I enjoy experimenting with different vibrating patterns to switch things up and reading more about the G-tapping feature got me really excited. 

The G spot is typically located just a few inches inside the vagina’s upper wall lining where the Sakura’s tapping feature is specifically targeted to maximise pleasure. For some of us it may be quite hard to figure out where to locate this “spot” with just our fingers, but with the Sakura, its vibrating and tapping features are designed to help massage and tantalise you internally, alleviating arousal from within. It also helped that the user manual came with everything I needed to know when it came to its key features. 

As I held the Sakura in my hand, I took my time to savour the moment. Stroking my hands up and down the toy and I could already feel the sensation of excitement build up. 

The toy is made of super soft, body safe silicone and comes in a really cute shade of pink (coincidentally, matching my fresh coat of manicured nails!) It’s also worth noting that the tip of the Sakura comes designed with a sleek and angled structure that curves upwards for an optimised G-spot stimulation, but more on that later…

Overcome with curiosity, I turned down the lights, put on some music, rolled into bed and generously lubed up the Sakura and my vulva with Liquid Silk and got down to business. 

It was a good thing I was generous with the lube as it allowed foreplay to be more fun as I teased myself with the tip of the toy at the opening of my vagina. 

Once I was ready, I gently allow the Sakura to glide into me with ease and held it in place. Holding down the middle button (which is also the power button) for three seconds, I felt the toy turn on with a slight buzz signalling me for my next course of action.

I started off with the top button which activated the clit stimulator, a sucking and subtle licking function. Though it did take me some time to position the Sakura in such a way that the C-spot stimulator would connect nicely to my clitoris, it didn't take me long to recognise the familiar clit sucking stimulation. And when I found my sweet spot, I knew it was go time! 

As I played around with the different vibrating patterns and immediately thought, “Oh boy does this thing pack a punch!” But with a speed of 300 vibrations per minute, I really shouldn’t have been surprised. I pressed the clitoral massager down against my clitoris to help intensify the sensations and felt my body begin to shiver.

I knew I was ready for more, so I braced myself for what's to come and felt for the last button first to activate the toy's vibration and then quickly onto the middle button for the tapping feature and I thought my soul had left my body!

Remember the angled tip of the toy I mentioned earlier? It had such a targetted focus that I could feel the vibrations pulsate through my body that even after the climax, the tapping and vibration sensations were still lingering inside of me for a couple of minutes even after the toy was removed! 

This felt totally new to me as I had always been a loyal clit orgasm lover but the Sakura gave me a full body, explosion of sensation I never thought was possible! It literally made my toes curled! And it was then that I realised, there was no coming back from the euphoria of having more blended orgasms. 

Inviting My Partner Into The Mix 

After that life changing first experience, I decided to let my partner join in on the fun. We’ve had our fair share of sexual experiences and he was very open to us incorporating the use of toys in the bedroom. So his curiosity peaked when I introduced him to our new “friend”. He spectated eagerly while I masturbated and I watched his arousal grow. So as he got more turned on, I got more turned on and it became a tennis match of arousal…

He decided he couldn’t be a spectator any longer and began to touch my erogenous zones, stimulating my nipples, breasts and in between my thighs. The sensations intensified and every touch felt electrifying! We locked eyes and the sexual energy flowing between us was almost dynamite. But unfortunately, even a seasoned sex toy user such as myself can sometimes still make rookie mistakes and Sakura died in the heat of the moment! Got myself to blame for being a little too excited upon receiving my toy that same day that I forgot to give the toy a full charge and immediately put it to work right after giving it a good rinse. So word to the wise, don’t make the mistake I did! Be sure to charge up the Sakura and it will last for at least two hours of fun! 

That said, I still managed to take mental notes of the beautiful “threesome” experience with my partner, Sakura and I before she went flat. Here are some juicy ideas I’d like to share with you to help you on your pleasure discovery.

Sex Positions With A Sex Toy & A Partner

One of our optimal positions involved me lying on my back. I got him to angle his penis such that the upper shaft rubbed against my clit as he performed a thrusting motion, with each thrust rubbing my clitoral hood up and down. This provided enough pressure over my clitoral hood that stimulated my clitoris and violah! 

As with everything in sex, there is no exact formula for what works and what does not. So be adventurous! Here are some other positions you may like to try if you want to a experience a blended orgasm with a partner:

• Reverse cowgirl/cowgirl
• Closed missionary 
• Standing
• Doggy (with hands off the floor)
• Spooning

While these positions might work for some of you, everyone’s body is different. Keep trying to see what may work for you! Even a different combination of orgasm (nipple, breast, nape of neck etc) is still a blended orgasm.

In short, blended orgasms are intense and pleasurable. Everyone’s body is unique and no two orgasms feel the same. Approaching sex without an end goal takes the pressure off of you and allows for blended orgasms to come more naturally. So keep experimenting and trying new things till you find what works for you. Sex is a lifelong exploration, so keep that flame lit!

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Featured Writer:

Bebe (Fellow Hedonista, a passionate sex-positive advocate & seasoned sex toy reviewer)