Happy masturbation May!
This May, we are celebrating one of the biggest acts of self-love; masturbation! There has been a positive global shift in the way people perceive masturbation, so much so that there’s a whole month dedicated to it! Specifically, the 28th of May. Masturbation improves sexual wellness and, releases stress.
But have you ever heard of a Kegel ball? Aka, Ben wa balls, is a tool that can help women improve their bedroom experience and attain an out of this world level of sexual pleasure! So here are five tips and tricks to using Kegel Balls to enhance pleasure through stronger orgasms.
First off, if you’ve never seen Kegel balls, here they are:
They can look pretty daunting initially, but we got you! Once you’ve learned how to use them, it can strengthen your relationship with your partner.
What are Kegel balls?
Kegel balls or Ben wa balls, are two or three weighted balls commonly made out of medical grade silicone (although there are different balls made out of different types of materials). They are attached together through a pea-pod looking case and are made to be safely inserted into your vaginal opening. Kegel balls are commonly used to strengthen muscle tone in your pelvic and anal areas which in turn, improves your pelvic floor muscle strength. Some Kegel balls come with a vibrating function and some may not and can be used as a sex toy as well!
As a woman’s body changes, through childbirth and ageing (which is completely normal FYI!) the vaginal muscles weaken, Kegel balls help to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which can help with incontinence issues. During penetrative intercourse, engaging or contracting the area can intensify the sensations for your partner.
Although normal Kegel exercises work, the Kegel balls can help you to engage and really focus on the area you’re working on. When used regularly, Kegel balls can help release sexual tension as well.
How to use Kegel balls?
Firstly, remember to use lubrication, this will ease the process and make it less painful to insert the Kegel balls. If using a silicone material Kegel ball, do NOT use silicone lube, opt for a water-based lubricant instead. Kegel balls should not be left in for more than four hours. Kegel balls should not be used during pregnancy or while recovering from childbirth or with a tampon/menstrual cup.
Wash your hands with soap, apply your lube of choice on the Kegel balls and insert them up your vaginal opening. It’s as simple as that!
There are pelvic floor exercises available to do with the Kegel balls, but if you’re a busy woman, simply inserting them and going about your daily routine works as well. The Kegel balls work best when you focus on the sensations and actively engage your pelvic floor muscles.
The sensation of Kegel balls varies from individual to individual, but they should not feel like they’re about to fall out or feel uncomfortable. There are some Kegel balls that are detachable so you can adjust to whatever feels good for you.
To remove them, wash your hands again, apply more lube, and slowly and gently pull on the string attached to the end of the Kegel balls, and remove them. This is done best lying on your back.
Tips and tricks to enhance foreplay
1. Take it slow
Especially if it’s your first rodeo with them, don’t feel pressured to immediately use the heaviest option. Remember; your sexual experience is unique to you. So do what makes you feel comfortable. Gradually increase the weight of the balls overtime. Do them with Kegel exercises. Practice makes perfect! So don’t feel like you have to get it down to a tee on the first go.
2. Consistency is key
With our busy day to day lives, it’s easy to forget to do the exercises or use the balls. It is recommended to do 2-3 sets of exercises a day to start off, three times a week. Once you feel more confident and comfortable, you can increase reps, or add weights or time. Just like working out at the gym!
3. Masturbation magic
Having the Kegel balls in may make you feel aroused. Don’t be shy, whip out your favourite toy and put it to work! This can intensify the sensation of the balls in your vagina and make you feel great. Using a curved shaped toy or a clitoral toy can help bring your orgasm to the next level. Keep in mind to avoid using silicone toys with a silicone material set of Kegel balls as silicone on silicone as it will deteriorate the material.
4. Get your partner involved
Some Kegel balls come with a remote controlled vibrator, hand your partner the remote and let them take the reins. This way, your partner knows they’re in for a good time later in the day and you’ll feel the impetus to work harder on your exercises. The feeling of anticipation will definitely turn the both of you on and you both know that you’re in for a good time in the bedroom later. Verbalise the sensations you feel and let them know that what they’re doing feels great. Adding sex toys into the bedroom for can always spice things up!
5. Go for the long haul
Ultimately, Kegel balls are an investment, so get some damn good ones. Kegel balls provide a great range of benefits besides sexual pleasure. Many people aren’t aware of the correlation of strong pelvic floor muscles and phenomenal sex! The sensations of contracting and relaxing during penetration can make a world of a difference during intercourse. Even a mere five minutes a day can do wonders. Hedonist tribe offers a great range and variety of different Kegel balls to suit your needs.
Kegel exercises work for many people, but not for everyone, and that’s okay. Kegel exercises may not benefit individuals with tight pelvic floor muscles. If you try to contract muscles that are already worked out and tired, they may not be able to respond to the exercises. Speak to a trusted health professional to find out more.
Ultimately, the biggest sex organ in the body is your brain, so keep an open mind and get ready to experience the biggest revolution of your sex life, for the better.
Need help working on your kegel muscles? Try our Gaia Kegel Balls (Wellness Set) or the Hedone Kegel Balls (Pleasure Set). It’s soft, body-safe silicone, so it is comfortable and easy to wear even for beginners. Designed with pleasure in mind, it provides rumbly vibrations and three progressive weights for toning to increase your level of inner fitness.