Pleasure is deeply personal, and the right sex toy should feel the same.
At Hedonist, we believe the best LGBTQ+ sex toys are not about fitting into someone else’s idea of pleasure. They are about finding what feels good, affirming, and comfortable for your body.
That’s why we’ve rounded up some of our favourite queer-friendly sex toys, based on what our customers have loved, asked about, and reached for again and again.
Whether you’re looking for a wand vibrator, licking vibrator, strap-on harness, cock ring, P-spot toy, or app-controlled couple toy, this guide brings together beginner-friendly LGBTQ+ sex toys for different bodies, pleasure styles, and relationship dynamics.
Below, you’ll find our #1 LGBTQ+ sex toy picks for solo play, plus our top 3 LGBTQ+ sex toys for couples, curated for queer people with vulvas, queer people with penises, trans people, and non-binary folks.
Psst, feel free to jump straight to the section that feels most like you.
Solo Play
- For Every Body: Wand Vibrator
- For Queer People With Vulvas: Licking Vibrator
- For Queer People With Penises: P-Spot Stroker
Couple Play
- For Queer People With Vulvas: Clit Sucker
- For Queer People With Vulvas: Strap-On Play
- For Queer People With Vulvas: Double-Ended Toy
- For Queer People With Penises: Vibrating Cock Ring
- For Queer People With Penises: Remote-Controlled Anal Stroker
- For Queer People With Penises: Chastity Cock Cage
Solo Play
Our #1 Pick for Every Body: The Magic Wand Vibrator
For queer people of all bodies, the classic wand vibrator is one of the most inclusive pleasure tools because it does not rely on one specific anatomy or one “right” way to experience pleasure.
The Lana Del Wand is designed for broad, external stimulation, making it a beginner-friendly option for LGBTQ+ folks who want to explore different erogenous zones without overcomplicating things. It can be used on the vulva, penis, nipples, inner thighs, perineum, or over clothing, depending on what feels good for your body.
Fun fact: The Magic Wand was originally designed as a body massager. Turns out, there’s more than one way to release tension.
Best for:
Every body, beginners, external stimulation, solo pleasure, and anyone who wants a simple but powerful toy.
Our #1 Pick for Queer People With Vulvas: Licking Vibrator
The Venus Licking Vibrator 2.0 is made for queer people with vulvas who want to explore both internal and external stimulation in one toy.
This baddie is for anyone who’s ever wondered, “What would tongue-like stimulation feel like, but on my own terms?” It combines a soft licking motion with vibration, so you can explore external pleasure, teasing, and build-up at your own pace.
It’s also waterproof, quiet, rechargeable, and beginner-friendly, making it an easy solo play sex toy for queer people with vulvas who want something a little more playful.
Best for:
Queer people with vulvas, solo play, hands-free pleasure, internal stimulation, G-spot pleasure, app-controlled teasing, long-distance intimacy, and partnered exploration.
Our #1 Pick for Queer People With Penises: P-Spot Stroker
For queer people with penises who are curious about prostate pleasure, the Landys Anal P-Spot Stroker is designed for comfortable anal exploration with more control.
The Landys Anal P-Spot Stroker offers dual stimulation for both the prostate and perineum, combining gentle stroking-style motion with quiet vibration settings and multiple speed options. It’s a beginner-friendly way to explore P-spot pleasure at your own pace, with added external stimulation for a fuller, more layered sensation.
Quick reminder: the anus does not self-lubricate, so using the right lube is your best friend here. Go slow, use more lube than you think you need, and always listen to your body.
Best for:
Queer people with penises, gay men, bisexual men, trans women, non-binary folks, anal beginners, prostate pleasure, P-spot stimulation, and anyone with a prostate curious about backdoor exploration.
Top 3 Couple Play Sex Toys for Queer People With Vulvas
If you’re exploring pleasure together, whether that means external stimulation, strap-on play, or simply discovering what feels good as a team, here’s a good place to start.
1. Dolce Vita Rose
The Dolce Vita Rose is a dual-ended toy designed to support both external and internal stimulation, making it a versatile option for partnered play.
One end uses air pulse technology to stimulate the clitoris externally, while the thrusting dildo end can be used for internal pleasure by the other partner. This allows two partners to explore different types of stimulation at the same time, creating a more shared and connected experience.
With multiple suction, vibration, and thrusting patterns, it gives couples room to explore different sensations, rhythms, and comfort levels while playing together.
Best for:
Queer people with vulvas, external stimulation, clitoral pleasure, beginner-friendly couple play, air pulse stimulation, and shared pleasure.
2. Hedonist Phoenix Strap-On Harness & Joystick Bendable Dildos
Curious about strap-on play? The Hedonist Phoenix Strap-On Harness paired with the Hedonist Joystick Bendable Dildos is a comfortable, beginner-friendly place to start exploring penetration, pleasure, and playful role reversal.
The Phoenix Harness is designed to feel supportive without being intimidating, with a size-friendly fit, Velcro waist, and adjustable thigh straps that fit EU34–42. It gives the wearer more comfort and control during partnered play, so you can focus less on “getting it right” and more on moving together.
Paired with the Joystick Bendable Dildo, this setup gives beginners more flexibility with angles and positioning. Its bendable shaft helps you find the right fit for different bodies and positions, while the life-like texture offers a more realistic, indulgent feel.
The Joystick also comes in different sizes, so you can start smaller and build confidence over time. Plus, the Phoenix Harness is machine-washable, making aftercare a lot more fuss-free.
Best for:
Strap-on beginners, queer couples, gender-affirming play, penetration, role play, control, comfort, and versatile couple play.
3. Lovense Lapis Dual-Ended Vibrating Dildo
If you’re ready to take strap-on play to the next level, the Lovense Lapis is a strong pick, especially for couples who enjoy vibration, hands-free pleasure, and a little app-controlled teasing.
Its dual-ended design allows two partners to experience penetration and vibration at the same time, while the flexible neck moves naturally with your body for a more comfortable fit during sex. That means less awkward adjusting, and more room to focus on rhythm, connection, and what feels good.
What makes it extra fun for shared intimacy is its app-controlled feature. You can explore custom vibration patterns, switch up the intensity, or let a partner take control, whether you’re in the same room or playing long-distance.
Best for:
Queer people with vulvas, lesbian couples, dual-ended play, shared penetration, app-controlled vibration, hands-free intimacy, and couple exploration.
Top 3 Couple Play Sex Toys for Queer People With Penises
For couples who want to turn up sensation, explore playful control with cock cages, or bring a little remote-control mischief into the bedroom. Get ready for it.
1. Batman Cock Ring
The Batman Cock Ring is small, stretchy, and surprisingly mighty, especially for queer people with penises who want to bring more sensation into partnered play.
Worn around the base of the penis, a cock ring helps gently restrict blood flow, which can support a firmer, fuller erection and help some people last longer during play. With up to 10 vibration modes, it also adds a playful buzz that can be felt by one or both partners.
Best for:
Queer people with penises, cock ring beginners, couple play, vibration, shared stimulation, and partners who want something playful but easy to introduce.
2. Ziggy Stroker Vibrator with Remote
The Ziggy Stroker Vibrator with Remote is a popular pick for queer couples with penises who want more focused P-spot stimulation.
With its tapered tip, kneading-like stroking motion, and multiple vibration modes, Ziggy delivers a deep, rhythmic sensation that can literally reverberate through the body. Think steady pulsing, teasing build-up, and a seriously sensational finish.
Plus, with a remote in hand, pleasure becomes a shared experience. One partner can adjust the settings while the other relaxes into the moment, and tries not to give away how much they’re enjoying it.
Best for:
Queer couples with penises, anal play, remote-controlled pleasure, hands-free teasing, playful control, and shared intimacy.
3. Axel Chastity Black Cock Cage
For queer people with penises who are curious about adding a little kink, teasing, and power exchange into intimacy, the Axel Chastity Black Cock Cage is something cheeky to consider.
Chastity play shifts the focus away from instant gratification and toward build-up, trust, and shared control. Think less “performance,” more patience, play, and a very delicious kind of tension.
Safety tip: Always discuss boundaries, consent, and a clear way to pause or stop before you begin.
Best for:
Queer people with penises, beginner chastity play, teasing, anticipation, playful control, and couples who enjoy exploring power dynamics with consent.
Explore With Pride
And there you have it, queer-friendly sex toys for solo play, partnered play, and everything beautifully in between.
Just remember: use the right lube, especially if you’re using penetrative toys. Communicate openly. And give your toys a good clean and charge before use, because the last thing you want is your pleasure sidekick dying mid-mission.
Still not sure where to start? Take our sex toy quiz and let us help you find your pleasure match.
Go forth and have fun in your sexploration. 😏
FAQ
What are LGBTQ+ sex toys?
LGBTQ+ sex toys are not a separate category of toys, but toys that can support different bodies, identities, pleasure styles, and relationship dynamics in a more inclusive way.
What is the best sex toy for queer beginners?
A wand vibrator is one of the easiest places to start because it works for many bodies and focuses on external stimulation.
Are strap-ons only for queer women?
No. Strap-on play can be enjoyed by people of many genders, bodies, and relationship types. It can support penetration, role play, gender expression, and shared pleasure.
What is a good LGBTQ+ sex toy for couples?
Good options include vibrating cock rings, strap-on sets, dual-ended toys, app-controlled vibrators, and clit suction toys, depending on the bodies and sensations involved.
