Pleasure is deeply personal, and the right sex toy should feel the same.
At Hedonist, we believe the best LGBTQ+ sex toys are not about fitting into someone else’s idea of pleasure. They are about finding what feels good, affirming, and comfortable for your body.
That’s why we’ve rounded up some of our favourite queer-friendly sex toys, based on what our customers have loved, asked about, and reached for again and again.
Whether you’re looking for a wand vibrator, licking vibrator, strap-on harness, cock ring, P-spot toy, or app-controlled couple toy, this guide brings together beginner-friendly LGBTQ+ sex toys for different bodies, pleasure styles, and relationship dynamics.
Below, you’ll find our #1 LGBTQ+ sex toy picks for solo play, plus our top 3 LGBTQ+ sex toys for couples, curated for queer people with vulvas, queer people with penises, trans people, and non-binary folks.
And feel free to jump straight to the section that feels most like you.
Solo Play
- For Every Body: Wand Vibrator
- For Queer People With Vulvas: Licking Vibrator
- For Queer People With Penises: P-Spot Stroker
Couple Play
- For Queer People With Vulvas: Clit Sucker
- For Queer People With Vulvas: Strap-On Play
- For Queer People With Vulvas: Double-Ended Toy
- For Queer People With Penises: Vibrating Cock Ring
- For Queer People With Penises: Remote-Controlled Anal Stroker
- For Queer People With Penises: Chastity Cock Cage
Solo Play
Our #1 Pick for Every Body: The Magic Wand Vibrator
All bodies invited, no exceptions. The Lana Del Wand vibrator covers the vulva, penis, nipples, inner thighs and perineum. Even over clothing! What makes it a fan favourite? That broad firm head that delivers targeted pleasure while spreading powerful vibration waves evenly across the body. Feels as good as it sounds.
Best for: Literally everybody. Vulva owners, penis owners, non binary and trans folks, LGBTQ+ beginners, external stimulation lovers and solo pleasure seekers who want powerful, inclusive pleasure without overcomplicating it.
Our #1 Pick for Queer People With Vulvas: Licking Vibrator
The audacity of this toy. A vibrating tongue for external teasing and a curved ergonomic shape built for G-spot stimulation, all in one. The Venus Licking Vibrator 2.0 really said why choose and honestly, we can't argue with that.
Best for: The baddies who want it all. Blended orgasm chasers, G-spot explorers, external stimulation lovers and anyone who is done picking between inside and outside pleasure.
Our #1 Pick for Queer People With Penises: P-Spot Stroker
The P-spot called and it brought a friend. The Landys Anal P-Spot Stroker delivers dual stimulation for both the prostate and perineum because why settle for one when you can have both.
This vibrator comes with an internal shaft designed for prostate play (P-spot). The external stroking design works the perineum, one of the most underrated erogenous zones on the body, for a fuller, deeper and more intensifying thrill from the inside out.
Safety Tip: The anus does not self lubricate so using the right lube is non negotiable here. Use more than you think you need, go slow and always listen to your body.
Best for: Prostate owners, P-spot exploration, perineum stimulation, anal beginners and anyone ready to discover what dual stimulation actually feels like.
Top 3 Couple Play Sex Toys for Queer People With Vulvas
If you’re exploring pleasure together, whether that means external stimulation, strap-on play, or simply discovering what feels good as a team, here’s a good place to start.
1. Dolce Vita Rose
Do not let the name fool you. The Dolce Vita Rose is not just a pretty face. One end delivers clitoral suction, the other offers internal thrusting pleasure, and BOTH partners can enjoy it at the same time. Or keep it all to yourself for dual stimulation. Either way, don't say we did not warn you.
Best for: Clitoral suction lovers, internal pleasure seekers, couples play and anyone who wants external and internal pleasure without switching toys.
2. Hedonist Phoenix Strap-On Harness & Joystick Bendable Dildos
Strap on play does not have to be complicated and this duo makes sure of it. The bundle comes with the Hedonist Joystick Bendable Dildos giving you full control over angles and positions so you can actually focus on what feels good instead of fumbling mid-action.
Plus, the Hedonist Phoenix Strap-On Harness is soft, satin-like and very size friendly with adjustable straps that keep chafing completely out of the picture. Oh and might we add that it's machine washable too... *squeals*
Best for: Strap on beginners, queer and lesbian couples, pegging, gender affirming play, adjustable fit seekers and anyone ready to explore with a little more confidence.
3. Lovense Lapis Dual-Ended Vibrating Dildo
Taking it a notch up on strap on play? The Lovense Lapis is made for couples who want vibration, hands free pleasure and a little app controlled teasing all in one.
Its dual ended design lets both partners experience penetration and vibration at the same time while the flexible neck moves naturally with the body for a comfortable fit
The real fun part? Hand the controls over. The app lets you explore custom vibration patterns, switch up intensity or let your partner take full control whether you are in the same room or playing long distance.
Best for: WLW, app controlled pleasure, long distance intimacy, hands free stimulation, dual penetration, strap on upgraders and anyone ready to bring vibration into shared play.
Top 3 Couple Play Sex Toys for Queer People With Penises
For couples who want to turn up sensation, explore playful control with cock cages, or bring a little remote-control mischief into the bedroom. Get ready for it.
1. Batman Cock Ring
Do not let the size fool you. The Batman Cock Vibrating Ring is surprisingly one of the most effective upgrades you can bring into partnered play. More sensations, more staying power, way more fun.
This stretchy little vibrator sits snugly around the base of the penis, gently restricting blood flow to support a firmer, fuller erection and help you last longer during play.
With up to 10 vibration modes that buzz does not stay selfish either, the wearer feels it and so does the receiver. Small addition, big difference.
Best for: Penis owners, cock ring beginners, queer and gay couples, prolonged pleasure, shared vibration, and extra sensation without bringing too many toys into play.
2. Ziggy Stroker Vibrator with Remote
Ziggy came to play and he is not here to be subtle. What makes the Ziggy Stroker Vibrator so different is that unique kneading stroking motion. It is not just vibration.
It is a deep rhythmic sensation that builds steadily and when it hits, it reverberates through the whole body. The kind of finish that makes you skip into a parallel universe.
And with a remote in hand pleasure becomes a whole game. One partner controls the settings while the other tries very hard to keep a straight face. Spoiler: they will not.
Best for: Queer couples with penises, anal play, remote-controlled pleasure, hands-free teasing, playful control, and shared intimacy.
3. Axel Chastity Black Cock Cage
For the kink curious who want power exchange, teasing and the very specific thrill of giving someone else the controls. Meet the Axel Chastity Black Cock Cage.
Here’s what makes this one worth choosing: it features a smooth matte resin finish with a breathable design, making it comfortable enough for all-day or even all-week wear, bathroom breaks included, according to our very satisfied customers.
Commitment level? Entirely up to you. Just don’t lose the keys. We can’t promise we’ll behave responsibly with that kind of power.
Safety tip: Always discuss boundaries, consent, and a clear way to pause or stop before you begin.
Best for: Kink-curious beginners, queer and gay couples, and anyone interested in power exchange, chastity play, teasing, delayed gratification, or consensual control with a partner.
Explore With Pride
And there you have it, queer-friendly sex toys for solo play, partnered play, and everything beautifully in between.
Just remember: use the right lube, especially if you’re using penetrative toys. Communicate openly. And give your toys a good clean and charge before use, because the last thing you want is your pleasure sidekick dying mid-mission.
Still not sure where to start? Take our sex toy quiz and let us help you find your pleasure match.
Go forth and have fun in your sexploration. 😏
FAQ
What are LGBTQ+ sex toys?
LGBTQ+ sex toys are not a separate category of toys, but toys that can support different bodies, identities, pleasure styles, and relationship dynamics in a more inclusive way.
What is the best sex toy for queer beginners?
A wand vibrator is one of the easiest places to start because it works for many bodies and focuses on external stimulation.
Are strap-ons only for queer women?
No. Strap-on play can be enjoyed by people of many genders, bodies, and relationship types. It can support penetration, role play, gender expression, and shared pleasure.
What is a good LGBTQ+ sex toy for couples?
Good options include vibrating cock rings, strap-on sets, dual-ended toys, app-controlled vibrators, and clit suction toys, depending on the bodies and sensations involved.
